"Wholeness is not achieved by cutting off a portion of one's being, but by integration of the contraries."
C.G. Jung
"Conflict is the spirit of the relationship asking itself to deepen."
Malidoma Somé
Areas of Focus
Individual Therapy
I treat people using a systems framework, understanding it is the environment that shapes us, and that we must we adapt to the environment in order to move with it, and at times, survive it. To survive it, we often take on beliefs and behaviors that may have been necessary in the past but now feel as though they are costing us by negatively impacting the things we value. This often leads to shame and self-criticism. My approach is to relate to these thoughts, feelings, and behaviors (which I call "parts") and to connect them with the innate qualities we all possess, such as courage, compassion, and presence (what I call "self"). In so doing, I aim to help clients work towards their goals while relating to their whole self with less judgment and more acceptance. This is the work of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, which you can learn about here -ACT | Association for Contextual Behavioral Science and Internal Family Systems, which you can learn about here - Videos | IFS Institute.
Couple/Relationship Therapy
Couples come to me with a variety of concerns about differences, such as parenting, desire, values, and finances. They are often experiencing the dilemma of having to choose one side, or of being stuck between the decision to give up oneself or to give up the security of the relationship. I offer a third option, which is focused on differentiation, or the ability to hold onto a sense of self, while staying connected to others even when navigating stark differences. In this way, I teach couples how to discuss the things that are difficult to talk about and often avoided. On the other side of conflict, there is an opportunity for deeper connection, a feeling of security, clarity, and more understanding about oneself and the other. For more information about the Developmental Model, click this link - A Developmental Model for Healthy Couples - Couples Institute
My Approach
My approach is rooted in compassion, collaboration, and empowerment. I believe in creating a safe space for individuals and couples to explore their challenges, develop coping strategies, and cultivate resilience. I am dedicated to providing personalized care, tailored to the unique needs of each client, and am committed to supporting my clients throughout their journey towards healing and growth.
Experience
In 2006, I began working in residential treatment in Minneapolis, treating women with substance use disorders and mental health diagnoses. After working in the field for nearly 8 years, I returned to school to earn my master's degree in social work from the University of Washington with a focus on multigenerational health. I've worked in group practice, treating people experiencing a variety of challenges. I am now in private practice, providing couple counseling and psychotherapy for adults.
Trainings and Certifications
Gottman Level 1, 2, and Treating Trauma and Affairs
Intimacy from the Inside Out
Developmental Model Advanced Training
Stepping Stones and Stepping Deeper (IFS-informed training, levels 1 and 2 through IFSCA)
Somatic Attachment Therapy from the Embody Lab
Assessing and Treating Sex Issues in Psychotherapy from the Institute for Relational Intimacy
MSW University of Washington 2018
BS Metropolitan State 2009
LICSW - LW61486603